Many parents think that money, time, children are protected. In fact, wealthy middle-class families facing children confused and even more, especially in terms of personality, desire and frustration education.
Case study one: personality
Week her daughter is 2 and a half, be sure to wear your favorite clothes every morning. Kindergarten provided in Garden clothes, but she is unwilling to wear, every time that you want to be late, she was reluctant to put on the Park Service to go to the kindergarten. Week, and this is confusing.
Expert guidance: development of the child on the aesthetic is an important aspect of cognition on the world. When children can\'t talk yet, already showed a color and style preferences. Freedom of adult children should be recognized, as he began to make independent decision feel happy. The stages of children imagination extremely developed, put on a Princess skirt feel is Princess, wearing a Superman costume on to conclude that he is Superman, and often regardless of the occasion or objective factors such as weather.
Several suggestions to parents:
When buying clothes respect for the views of the child on the color and style, aesthetics of itself does not have to be imposed on children, sometimes children in cold weather like to wear skirts, pants jacket skirt also would be all.
Old family clothing, such as Dad\'s shirt, hat, mother of long skirts, scarves, and other clean up in a fancy basket, for use by children imitating dress up at any time. This meets the children love to imitate the characteristics of, and will gradually let the child know, need to be wearing a different dress on different occasions.
When request made when the child is too high, excessive adamantly refused. When reasoning doesn\'t work, ignore approach can be taken, but afterwards and he should be a remedial discussions on the issue.
Kindergarten establishment of the Park Service, this practice irregularities. Because the period of self-consciousness of children just beginning to germination, on who they are often confused, asking them to identify the characteristics of the appearance of dozens of children around the already take a very long time, if there is no personalized clothing, increased the child difficulties of communal life.
Case study two: the education of desire
Ms Cheng requirements for child an endless headache. Lead children take to the streets at a time or to the public, children are always kept to buy this buy that. Such problems have not once twice. Son now has a pile of toy trains, motor racing, launches model, but seemed unable to meet him. All RC car he likes, same style of car he buy the different colors and different models, see what other children and toys he will constantly clamoring for, but came back, a few days and then thrown to the side of the. Although they had the economic ability to buy him, but in the long term it will become a child \"to what you have been\" problems?
Expert guidance: this education will certainly cause many adverse consequences. But as it turns out the problem still out of the parents, because the children to express their aspirations beyond reproach, and meets the aspirations of the children\'s rights is in the hands of the parents. Many parents think this is a money education, in fact, this is a profound and widespread desire for education. Children of different ages have different desires, and early childhood is to actually lay the child on the basic attitude of desire, it determined the child is able to correctly face many temptations in the future, including emotional, physical, and still have a lot of negative things, such as smoking, alcohol, drugs, and so on.
In fact, the desire is not wrong in itself, but meet the desire to be limited by time, place and number, otherwise, you will have an obstacle to his growth. When children find that reality is not the case, his inner pain far more strongly than young.
Several suggestions to parents:
When the child is concerned only with their own desires, will open the desire of the other members of the House, put together several desires, exploring priorities of desire with the children, the final request for child\'s solution.
Prior to the street, pre-announced. Such as what not to buy anything, so that children have a certain amount of mental preparations. Are the benefits of doing so, children will try to do as agreement, once the word, will not be held accountable.
Best for children to buy things there is a reasonable reason, such as birthday, reward good behavior, and so on. Many adults like arbitrary, often makes child any mind, no \"from\" to be found.
Child desire cannot be met, emotion is blocked, sometimes heated words or behaviour. Parents should try to stay calm and let the children out, not to be his row misses infuriated, fight. When talking children needed to be calm.
Case study three: frustration education
Ms Korea 36 years of age, the original working in foreign companies, since after the child has been doing at home \"full-time wife\" son 6 years of age. Son plenty of growth in an environment of this elementary school. But mother found son to face failed, such as after falls in the race along with other children, or checkers under continuous transmission and mother of two, he will \"as they\" burst into tears, and even make drastic move. Mother was very worried, on child primary or in the future into the community will be facing a lot of competition and failed, and so what?
Expert guidance: If most children physically and psychologically normal, are able to accept some of the failures and setbacks. Some of the children\'s tolerance than their peers is poor or naive, nor should be considered a problem, because growth is always a fast is slow speed, the more early difference, the greater.
Several suggestions to parents:
Not in front of the children showed excessive sympathy or sad mood, otherwise the child unlimited overstating one\'s own behavior.
Describing his pain instead of using violence to punish his conduct, so that children and their share
。Realistic recognition of objectively judge the child happens to people and things. Only in this way helps develop the child be a real confidence rather than false confidence.
Not force children to change their behavior not yet recognized at once, such as not to cry, not to lose his temper.
In fact, these 3 questions are all modern parents are facing problems, and is not limited to middle-class parents, believe that every parent will get benefits.
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