Foreign mothers when they heard the children say to yourself \"no\" excitedly jumped up when, because they believe that this is a flag in the growth of children (about 2 years old), growth of their children are healthy. While the children are too compliant, docile and obedient are not good, then he may become \"problem\" boy trouble instead of saying \"no\".
Hear his \"little tail\" saying \"no\", when our mothers do not have injured or failed ideas.
Children\'s negative behavior shows that children start to have an independent consciousness, trying to understand the environment, create their own likes and dislikes the concept of expressing personal needs, in real life, often as a child to the mother as saying \"no\". Although children have \"self-advocate\" is a positive thing, if the mother is not good, will also have a negative impact on children\'s growth.
, Children against psychological reasons
About two years old children start learning to think, started to form their own social views, and want to work in its own way. At this time, physical and motion development so that they can be represented by action against to resist what they don\'t like. Although independence is important step in the process of children grow up, but the parents do not forget that about two years old child is too young, do not know the consequences of, unforeseeable risks may occur. Therefore, in addition to protecting the child\'s safety, parents should also teach them to learn to consider the feelings of others, important things must consult with their parents.
Second, what kind of resistance is the \"normal\"
When a child in a separate process, you will experience all of the following things:
1, denied the requests of parents;
2, and parents sang;
3, ignoring parents;
4, not the parents cuddle, not intimacy with my parents;
5, do not stay in the parents, from parents to run away.
Starting from the age of the children, these things occur in the two years more frequent and intense. This is because the development of their language features is not perfect, the child cannot understand what parents mean well and therefore cannot fully implement parent means, and they also do not have enough vocabulary to express their feelings and needs. So, parents will feel, children are intentionally they dry.
With the growth of age, children will become a \"good\" boy of 3-5 memory increase, thinking ability, they listen and use language to learn something more, you can better control their emotions and behavior.
Third, help \"against the\" child care through resistance
Parents must remember that rebellion was a child growing up in the rite. Only through the help of parents, children can be successfully through the period of resistance:
1, emotional tension in children are more vulnerable to resistance
While the children were tired and hungry, is time for them to rest or eat some snacks like in common, will help ease tense mood, rather than to teach him to learn new things or do things.
Transformation of the surrounding environment will also make kids nervous against psychological increase. For example, when a child is sick, usually their emotions very low, easy and parents to do, when parents understand children, when he was sick they may wish to tolerance.
2, keep children safe
Children\'s risk awareness is not strong, so they may make some will have dangerous consequences of behavior, found, parents should stop immediately, and then you must take to communicate with children, let him understand the consequences of their behavior. For example, children ran so happy in the street, but may have been knocked down by a car. You\'re going to tell him, \"mother can\'t have you running in the street, because here the car a lot, if you get hit by hit, is pain, is pain. ”
3, let your children learn to cooperate with people
Children for example, ask distinct from the effect of the command, such as \"show me the book, will you? \"And\" show me the book! ”。 Also, tell children what to do rather than what not to do. For example, you want your children to be more careful, you can say \"gently picked up the Cup\", not \"don\'t bash the Cup! ”
4, parents should be reasonable
For small children, and let him Exchange toys with children than let him free toys for your children easier. Let the children express in language requirements, but could not condone his bad habits. If you encounter child made to cake in the supermarket, don\'t because the eyes of the people around him to succeed. You can take him out, in calm language tells him, \"because your performance is very poor, so Mama can\'t buy you a cake. If you want to eat the cake should say to MOM. \"Child slowly learns to use language to express his ideas.
5, do children\'s role models
Parents \' behavior will directly affect the child\'s thinking and behavior, therefore, parents to control their own behavior, don\'t let resistance to control their own, especially in front of the children.
In addition, if a child does resistance behavior without any reason, don\'t feel bored and have no control over their emotions, done on children, on your own is a good choice.
What four, after the problem occurs
Such as irritability, depression is a State that children cannot be avoided, but children if in this State for a long time are not a normal phenomenon. Therefore, when it finds a child when problems do occur in the process of growing up, the best approach is to seek the help of doctors and professionals in a timely manner, do not sit.
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