Keep the children happy say goodnight

Read Taiwan one writer for the story of the happy say good night.

Remember wrote at the beginning: again to mother to small building wearing thick jackets and gloves to the kindergarten days. A lunar month of 29days never like winter because cold shanfeng blows the window of his room \"carbazole carbazole\" sound, and like school, haven\'t played anything, it is dark, and suddenly have to go to bed. Small building hate after the Sun, has become so big, well anything dark in the House, there are many don\'t know where to run out of strange shadows will stick to the window, all sounds very strange sound terrible. A meal, you have to take a bath, sleeping on my own, small building would have been the heart of jumping, that kind of afraid of feeling anywhere, anytime, let young built the whole evening was uncomfortable. Even though the urinary urgency, and the father in the living room, he just didn\'t want to own a person to the bathroom go to the toilet; know sleep time is up, if it can be read with mother, he was dragged back to her room. With MOM and dad together he, together with adults, had he not too afraid of sth When MOM and dad told him to go to bed, small building will want to, why can\'t people shut their eyes to sleep? Not before sleeping every day, he will be heard in the movie vampires of scraping glass \"squeaking\" noise; is worried about hiding under the bed of a person, such as MOM and dad is asleep, to tie he stole away, then come and talk to MOM and Dad for money, and he killed off, like on the TV news often say that as,

Children in the world, always has a lot to make them feel afraid of something. Frightened children on a number of things, is widespread in its growth and development of an experience that its content may change as the age change. As: was born 5-9 months of children will on strangers was fear; 2 aged within of children is easy was huge of sound scare live, 2 aged of children most fear close get along of people left he; 3, and 4 aged of children will special fear sound, and dark and unknown of things, fear animal, and fear alone; 5 aged of children still fear black, fear in dark Department injured; 6, and 7 aged is a full imagine of fear age. To think of \"ghost\", death, the robbers also produce fear, fear of evil, fear no home, fear of looking a person sleeps nightmares; most of the children in this age are afraid of Thunder and lightning, wind and fire and other natural phenomena. As the child of knowledge growth, more and more understanding of the world, children are afraid of the nature of things will reduce; to the age of 8, 9, the children may start to feared bad exam results and criticized by the parents and teachers, in General, the children\'s fear of an object change with its age, experience and rich.

Cause fear psychology of children

· Related to lack of knowledge, lack of experience of life with the children

As night fell, children have limited knowledge and experience, did not know what kind of world is the world in the dark, do not know what means the death of their loved ones around, and in accordance with their own understanding to darkness and death, the resulting fear and dread.

· Children some experiences cause they fear itself

If a child young Jesu was strongly stimulated, encounter similar things in the future, or even encounter stimulus slightly, can also cause children strong reactions. If a child is bitten by a black dog, he is very scared when you see the black dog again, and he may be afraid of the dark dog to a fear of all dogs, then afraid of all four-legged animal, which is the result of psychological generalization.

· Others fear of infection

Children to see or hear while others are in a State of fear, even if their situation and without any fear also restless. If others see a snake later fear reactions, children see snakes will also shout shouting at a later time. Children listening to ghost stories, watched with horror when color film and the book, due to ignorance and negative implied by adults, their hearts will also have a sense of fear.

· Formation of fear associated with the improper education of parents

For example: the child the mood of play are concentrated, refused to go to bed. Parents for the children to get to sleep, scaring kids: \"get to sleep! Don\'t sleep, monsters have a grasp of sleeping children. ”

· When familiar environment changes

Children\'s response to the situation there will be a familiar way, but when he went to an unfamiliar environment, the already available dealing with methods will \"fail\", making children feel anxiety and unease, giving rise to fears.

Correctly treating fear of children

Fear, fear is the human in order to avoid harm to demonstrate self defense response, it\'s not a terrible bad behavior, instead have its positive side. Therefore, when the child acts out when timid fear, parents need not worry too much. Most of the time, with age, fear will gradually disappear and does not affect children\'s lives, behavior and social activities. But if a child of fear too much strong, so as to affect the development of his normal, you need to make the necessary intervention.

Family psychological atmosphere of the establishment of harmonious security

Establish harmonious, secure family atmosphere are very important to overcome the children fear. Children fear from them on the outside of a insecurity, makes children feel safe, give them some love, let them understand what parents do not have to fear, fear will reduce child emotion.

The fear of children respond appropriately

Fear of children is neither a continental or fuss. When the children are afraid of when not to blame, ridicule or fool their children. If you blame, criticism, anger to children of a chicken, only child anxiety worsened. As a child began to fear the night, scold children is coward, frighten him not to cry, is not a good way. When terrified children hear thunder can\'t say: \"stuff for fear of Thunder? Don\'t like a little child

Grow up. \"The more children the more alarmed. Is not a child of a fear, parents also fear when parents peace of mind to natural, and children, mother and father as a child, also afraid of those like you, grown up afraid of.

Communication with the children, speaking out the truth

Children often make some common sense is the most effective way to help him overcome the fear. Children feared something, often because of ignorance. Once you understand the truth, will naturally eliminate the fear. As children fear Thunder and lightning, teachers, parents to explain to the children of lightning a simple truth, let your child see Thunder is a natural phenomenon, eliminating his fear of Thunder and lightning. Outside reason in addition to the child with a language, we can also guide child to actual observation. If you are a child afraid of the dark, you can let the children listen to the sound of wind blowing leaves issue, telling him, leaves in the evening issued sound is the same as during the day, children see and hear in person, would not have a strange idea.

Behavior change by fear of children

To regular, timely appreciation of children. When the children to close once feared when Bunny, brave of adults to encourage children in a timely manner. Children dared to sleep alone, to timely praise. Also available when the children are afraid of transferring attention to law, that is, when children see and hear something of fear, with toys or language to distribute his attention, its attention from the feared object transfer, forget the fear. When a child has a fear of things, desensitization can also use system-when a child is afraid of things without fear, afraid of things by the adult can be induced by him, over time, he got used.

Model demonstration method to change a child\'s fear

Parents are the child\'s first teachers, their words and deeds will give subtle influence children. On one hand, must not use demons, monsters, snake, Tiger and other threatened types of discourse to stimulate children; on the other hand, with perseverance and brave behavior affecting children, you can also set around some examples, such as when children show brave, strong around the behavior, should be given recognition. Can of course use movies, stories, books, children for various demonstrations, thus overcoming the fear of children, development of their brave, optimistic personality.

Occurs when the environment changes, get ready to let the children know and

Under significant pressure and facing enormous changes, such as divorce, children\'s fears tend to peak, at this point, be sure to give the child to appropriate help. Parents should let children understand changes in advance, and let the children recognized that changes in the environment cannot change their children\'s love, he continues to be safe, be not afraid.

Mentioned in the story, small build ultimate success sweep \"black\". Stories of father and mother through continuous language practical observation, and other means of persuasion, small building, the little building see:

1, in my own room and secure, father and mother slept in the next, as long as I called, they will hear;
2, everyone needs sleep, so the next day to have strength to play;
3, is because the license for the Sun in the evening, all the same thing in the room, and the day;
4, \"quack\" is the voice of bamboo by the wind, \"chirp\" is in the name;
5, the window screen to move to egg flower shadows;
6, the ground was black I forgot your machine-men;
7, grandfather hurts me most, though he passed away, but he is still the same me.

Finally with the help of parents of small built in \"happy say good night\", and wish that every child can \"delight, good night\".