Ask questions, first of all to respect children

Question, is the understanding of the child, parents and their children important ways to communicate. But how to \"ask\", a bit of care and the arts.

\"Good question\" to \"say hello\"

There are some \"good asking\" parents: children write a letter, to ask who is addressed to; is a man or a woman; some subjects in the school quiz, ask several of the top, is progress or regression; children asked not out here, but also to ask the child\'s teacher, to the child\'s classmates about. This \"good question\" subjectively is out of concern for children, but ask too much too small, it will make children feel their parents always look over their shoulders, there is no trust, easily lead to children\'s disgust.

Notes, small children, also has its own world, parents \"force\" it too tightly can cause children to assert their awareness of the territory of a party, thus unwilling to put all cards on the table with their parents. Moreover, the children are tired of the course of the day, when the parents get home from work and, when it is physically and mentally tired, they need is their warm greetings, it makes them feel their parents \' concern and trust. With trust, children will talk about.

\"Questions and answers\" for \"question and answer\"

Many parents always consciously or consciously express the condescending attitude: I\'m a parent, I ask you, you have to answer. So easy to let your children create a \"trial\" a sense of inequality. Especially children had secondary school, independent awareness, in the case of interrogation of parents, children vulnerable to lies, lies to deal with. Smart parents guide their children take the initiative \"q\" parents, and parents in \"answer\" timely guidance. Able to do this step provided that parents usually pay attention to creating a family atmosphere of democracy and equality. Child students called about he went to the bookstore, authoritarian style of parents will ask: \"who come from? Of men and of women? You do? \"In democracies children growing up in a family atmosphere, may parents ask before saying:\" certain students went to the bookstore, you don\'t mind, right? I go by bike or on foot to go well? ”

Change \"ask\" for \"ask\"

\"How do you get back so late? \"\" Who together on the road? \"\" Why exam the exam so bad? \"\" Told you why! This is common when many parents are dissatisfied with the information or tone.

Under such questioning, timid little boy soon will overflow with tears, and encounter a little child of Jiang, the family certainly cannot avoid the fight. In any case, parents need to understand the real situation but difficult. In fact, the same thing and put on \"is not the case,\" \"say good reasons\" discussed, such as tone, will make the children happy to communicate with parents, even if the child is made a mistake, will step down, to active his or his remorse.

Change \"asked\" to \"song asking\"

Some parents tend to go straight to \"themes\", what I want to know what you ask, tend to have hurt the self-esteem of the child. In fact, the \"q\" is designed to guide, gently \"q\" can often children of the waters, and \"q\" itself can also be a hint, a reminder, the expectation. \"Are you OK? \"Is a concern,\" this kind of thing you don\'t do it? \"Is the attitude of parents and reminded,\" my son certainly can do, right? \"It is a spur.

\"Q\" is the core of full respect for the child. Many parents tend to have one way of thinking, boy was I born, he has something, I asked him was justified, and rarely have, in turn, ask their own questions. To learn how to change \"he asked\" to \"ask\": \"did I hurt your child\'s self-esteem? \"\" I was so arbitrary? \"Get rid of\" total right of parents \"thinking, communication with the child will become smoother, education will also be much better.