We the parents awareness of what?

We have been in the study of the awareness of parents on the basis of analysis of the results, explores some of the major characteristics of Chinese parents in the family consciousness today. On the whole, in participating in the sample, total parents awareness level is quite high; but at the same time also reflect some worrying questions. So, we have the sense of what a parent does? Let us take this as a problem to some analysis, and as a summary of this series of articles.

When children come into the world with a cry, first of all, parents must be psychologically ready \"accept\" preparations. The so-called \"accept\" is found and recognized the innate characteristics of children, in particular temperament. Many people think the baby is plastic, in fact, children plasticity exists only in a certain level. Every child in real life, have different innate characteristics. Psychologists study found that children can usually be classified as \"easy (support)\", \"up slowly\" and \"difficult\" three categories, and the temperament and character traits of the parents is not much. So, to take the children, also have to have experience of children in the first step \"temper\". To this, parents should have adequate psychological preparation, regardless of the child was brought up with and vulnerable, sensitive to many things, or a scratch, we have to do the first step must be active to accept, and then gradually explore raising children on the basis of this the best approach.

As parents of children with moderate sensitivity and response should be. As children grow up one of the key factors, the role of parents and children should not be underestimated. Due to the child born is a weak, parents role from the beginning, mainly in the protection, upbringing, love appears. Therefore, inevitably happen in the life of extremes: some parents on the child\'s every move is too sensitive, reaction was too strong. Children have trouble parents will be a State of extreme nervousness. And to eat and buy playing; and coaxed and fraud; and hold and kiss sth Only one objective, that is to paste child arrangements are completed properly. Instead, also some parents or due to busy livelihoods, or due to focused Yu own of amateur life, difficult to entered children dependency who of role, on children physiological, and psychological demand both does not concern, also however involved, hope children on like home in the shiyang of small cat, and small dog, \"enrollment of is to, waved of is to\", makes children normal of parent-child exchanges demand difficult to meet.

Parents too strong, too weak sensitivity and responsiveness of adverse effects on the health of children is clear. Parents had strong of sensitivity and reaction sexual makes children formation has a only was concern, and was loved of psychological mode, once cannot in accordance with the this psychological mode running, these children on has may only will helpless, even to anomalous, and extreme of behavior to performance its dissatisfaction; parents had weak of sensitivity and reaction sexual is makes children on family members and the family relationship extremely indifference, turn effect its and others freely, and normal to exchanges. One can imagine, when his family when the child grows, family relationships in what would happen.

Moderate sensitivity and responsiveness to be reflected in all aspects of parent-child communication, and child age changes and focused. For example, in infancy, it requires parents to their children good habits and language, actions, and so have more concern; in early childhood, parents should be exploration activity on the child\'s sense of independence, more sensitive, social communication and response, and so on. This is one of the important characteristics of good sense parents.

Parental awareness of the rich connotation also includes a family committed to forming good \"common sense\" atmosphere. Synaesthesia is usually means both parties (or more) from a different perspective to feel the thing encountered and emotional experience. The author believes that lack of empathy and communication in the family, is one of the main reasons for the modern family. Family common sense is multidimensional and more points to, not only between the parents, but also in the parent and child in the process of communication. When a child is not yet born, dad put themselves in various hard to feel the mother during pregnancy (of course, also like a proud experience, enhancing the good care of his wife, and prepare for the birth of a child\'s confidence and sense of responsibility.

In the new life comes after the first few years, social scientists call \"family crisis\" period. The reason was mainly \"third party\" interference broke two world of warmth and peace so that family conflicts surge. This phenomenon is most common among young parents complain to each other, blaming the other side failed responsibility or not having regard to her feelings. In fact, if both parents from the other side would like to think, in the light of experience due to the enormous challenges brought by the child\'s birth, perhaps against the children grow up, such as complaints and quarrels family atmosphere will reduce many.

With the passage of time, the children grew. Although he was crying out of the scene as if there yesterday, but today he is a new change. In the family, in addition to the parent he has new changes. In the family, in addition to parents of common sense between them, in the middle of parental use reason from the perspective of children need parents to realize his world. Do not, children independent of the will are his psychological motive of trying all on its own, and attempts to be his future success alone exercise time and time again of sth From the perspective of children to feel, parents will be pleasantly surprised to find that: every age of the child, is the ability of the child, is to the success of the children, is to have a happy child. Even if these abilities, success, happiness, in the eyes of adults is so trivial, but for children, these capabilities grow, successful and happy is he on the road to the road with burning eyes, beautiful scenery. Has has family in the good of total sense atmosphere, parents to real experience to children need of is what, children of interest and hobby is what, only does not just from parents own of likes and dislikes start, in \"all for children good\" of excuse Xia, coin out so more children of \"prescriptive need\", and \"prescriptive interest\" (is is by parents specifies of, but while and was parents think is children of need or children of interest hobby) and so on. Indeed, today\'s children why so many \"not interested\", \"boring\", and the parent

Parent identified those \"mandatory interest\" has nothing to do it?

Parents are an important aspect of consciousness is the self-life, on the social responsibility of parents. We found in the survey, traditional culture, and parental dissatisfaction with their status of dual factors, our children and their parents are more likely to be associated with, depending on the success of children for their own success-that is our analysis of the typical parent – child integration. Under the influence of this awareness, parents often become life all the positive actions of bystanders, he asked the child \"good effort\", but he definitely does not \"make progress every day\", as if their life The outcome is a foregone conclusion, do not need to make any effort, on the meaning of life, social progress has no responsibility. So, for themselves, their children form two different sets of standards of conduct: come home at night, children must do their homework, but mainly to watch television, play mahjong; children not to lie dish, but you can export as \"dirty\" sth We emphasized the analysis of parental awareness issues, parents themselves known way, parents family, sense of responsibility towards society, life, impact on child growth and development of the most far-reaching. Because is not imitation, absence of parents when the child no parenting. Typically, we deliberately and consciously requirements, fostering children\'s efforts, will be its own inadvertently self-indulgent and easily wiped.

Particularly emphasized is that parents should not only help children grow up to be a useful person to society, and should help children have a healthy, active, rich life. To do this is, pair just walked life half road (even has may only one-third) of parents in own of life in the has no has self-development of pursuit, even abandoned has originally of entertainment, and hobby and social, and on own of external image, and couples feelings are than yiqian care has, so, health, and actively, and rich of family attitude by produced indirect of actively effect, is extremely profound, and long of, this is good parents consciousness of and a important aspects.

It should be noted that concern about parental awareness, now has only just begun. Our wish is: proceeding from the parents, allow parents to set up a good awareness of parents, of parental grasp scientific methods, form a good parental attitude, make each pair of parents a child physical and mental health guide.