Say \"no\" to children

Son was 4 years old, psychology is very serious: let him napping, he said \"no\"; let his toys away, he said \"no\"; let him turn off the TV, he said \"no\"; even after a typhoon the weather a little cold, let him wear trousers, he also said \"no\" to sth I thought him to be tamed without adults worry about children, he did everything with me, it\'s played out!

　　
Children aged 2, 4, 6 and 8 years old, was in \"uncooperative\" this stage they could have easily said \"no\", if parents to foster \"tame\" children, often said to him \"no\", he will say \"no\" is a funny thing. So AI Zi said to friends around often, to take control of your own to say \"no\" frequency and tone for a \"not now\", for example, children hope Sunday flying a kite, and you want to work overtime, you can tell him: \"to wait 5 days all right? Mother takes you to a more interesting place, you can also fish sth \"

Similarly, when consulting the child views, don\'t send him to say \"Yes\" or \"no\" opportunity to try some alternative questions, such as \"what you like to wear blue trousers, or yellow? \"\" Let the game pack toy, which part do you want to do? ”

At the same time, not to say \"no\" to hit, to understand the saying \"no\" is the process of establishing self-consciousness of the children.

Remarried families how to build a parenting order?

　　

I have a 4 year old daughter, remarried husband brings son 7 years old. I really do not know how to coordinate the relationship between the two boys, they always clash. Harmonious relationship with the step, two children I have to use \"double standard\", but it did give the daughter felt aggrieved, and step also said that I \"installed.\" AI Zi asked, what should I do?

　　
In remarried families, \"equity\" is the most sensitive words, not only their own children to be fair, step-children must be fair. Not understood as allowing fair. Of course, early in the fusion process, natural parent should act as the main role, not to let your husband in the absence of discipline of the step. Fault of the two children should be set to the table, using a standard rather than two sets of standards to solve. You can also use this method to RapPort – when daughter makes a mistake, seek advice from the step: \"according to our agreement, what do you think sisters should be punished? \"When step makes a mistake, you can let his daughter go to comfort him, help him put down the extreme emotions – can also help them to establish responsibility and accordingly\" under the rule of equality \"of consciousness.

Children always be unmindful

My son just one grade of primary school, the whole family are leaving things for him to worry about, less than a year of effort, he lost textbooks, dictionaries, often before they go to school only to find water bottles gone sth AI Zi asked, what should we do, can I change that sent out when the whole family \"search service\" situation?

　　
You can prepare a carton or wood, in the living room or bedroom, as home of the \"lost haven\", that is, requiring children\'s textbooks, off of clothes, shoes, kettle and racket-and-drop to a fixed location, once he picked on, any person who saw can be lost to \"lost haven\" to it. Prepare a stack of adhesive, to every \"lost property\" labeled \"missing date\", provides missing for 3 days before the owner can claim. The tactic of Ling failed, see whether parents can adhere to the principle: the child lost his most beloved running shoes, he went to the \"lost haven\" search, shoes, of course, there may also have to wait 3 days, 3 days in which he had to wear a pair of dirty white and old sneakers to school. Want to keep the children away with scatter brained old trouble, let him bear the consequences is the only thing parents can do.