Us \"track to guide family education\" subject group study cases, a boy named Jia Jia. He almost 4 years of age, living in a yard. Sunny day, there are always many children playing in the courtyard. Jia Jia and Grandma out, but he follow SB. closely Grandma always hold Granny\'s leg, or rely on, or go in circles, refused to go to the middle child to. His eyes straight, well looked at children, with no expression on his face, seemed worried about something, and don\'t know what he is thinking; seems to be not interested in playing for the children. If she really take him home, he refuses to.
Why let a little boy worried? This from Jia Jia was born near to start.
Jia Jia was born soon, MOM and dad busy at work, take care of him, sent him to live with Grandma and Grandpa. Grandma and Grandpa are all in good health, to be honest, kind, literacy is not high, there is no special hobby, busy at home better boring after retirement. His grandson, happens to have given the old couple of infinite joy. They round a better better every day, and looked after in every possible way, life don\'t have to Jia Jia\'s mum and dad to worry about. When Jia Jia had just come, crying very badly, but soon adapted to the new life. Grandma often pushed the car, Jia Jia lay in it, followed by my grandfather, holding water, benches, and a small bag, a walk in the yard. Familiar neighbor must stop, Doudou Jia Jia, praised the children two sentences. 佳佳 \'s MOM and Dad for taking the time to see better, send something daily needs of the children, staying in Grandma\'s home after an hour or two, and hurried away.
Time flies, 佳佳 almost two years old, mothers feel problems: son saw his not very parent, came, went, he plays him, nothing happens, sometimes not even look a look at her eyes. Mother began to bad. In order to narrow the feelings of the mother and child, mother has come. Every Saturday and Sunday, you better to the Park to play better, bring back their lives one day, preparing delicious meals, buy his favourite toy of sth These tricks works very well, before long, Jia Jia re like their own home, and start relying on mother: Grandma every day looking forward to the mother; mother, would tie small hand flutter into the mother, smile on his face open flowers; mother has to go, as if he was on the edge of cry. Sometimes the day cahei, Jia Jia mother go, staring down. Mother went, he followed where mouth keeps saying: \"Mama don\'t go. Mother with 佳佳 \'s go. \"Even my mother went to the bathroom, he also allowed his mother to close the door. Mother to go to work, and can\'t really take him away, never had to Taiwan I want to countermeasures: criticism sometimes frighten children let themselves go; sometimes give better better wish: \"MOM bought you tomorrow to eat sth MOM buy you a plane tomorrow sth Take you to the Zoo. \"Sometimes there\'s no way but to knitting a lie to children on the balcony, they secretly slip away. Evening of the second day, such as good morning early at the door, reading about in the mouth: \"my mom why don\'t come back? I called my mother. \"Mother said today on the telephone, children begin a sad tears, poor appetite to eat, blue night, without a smile, sth
In the long run, 佳佳 \'s trouble was crying: cries when she woke up feeling, knock out crying, crying shoes was opened, eat bananas nobody peel a banana also cry, eat a hot cry with the rice. Make two old men did not know what good. Grandma\'s good nature, enough patience, but also know lengleng to hold him, nothing fresh. Under desperating frighten two sentences, 佳佳 cried sound higher. Grandpa shortness of breath the child screams: \"cry cry, you know you cry, you eat, you drink, what cry cry! \"Grandma Grandpa lost his temper, and Grandpa. This way the children are not crying out, frequent sob intermittently to sleep.
Yihou, neighbourhood, it is more difficult to see better better smile.
In good cases, Grandma and mother both sides competing for the love child, wants to keep the children with their parents, mother won the results, children cannot be separated from the mother, but children also to Grandma every week staying there for most of the time, so child anxiety, significant psychological problems. This is a competition without a winner, everyone loses.
What problem?
The problem is that some of these parents are self-centered, see overweight their own emotional needs, rather than stand in the position of the child, taking into account the needs of the child, considering his practice of what consequences to the child.
Grandmother Grandpa generation isolation is, old love child, awareness education may not be strong, you can understand. Mainly upon child mothers: If you\'re really busy, you must let the child live with Grandma, you will have to prepare, the child may do you no to Grandma, this is normal, you may make some \"fine\", but the action should not be too large. The mother of the \"draw\", clearly too much, has gone too far. You have children separated from their own, cannot accompany him every day, this did not trouble?
This is called \"emotional tug-of-war\" and the child is drawn by \"string\", soul is pulled in half by both sides.
I had the mother, or I overcome difficulties and bring their own children, or I would consciously does not have a child yourself too, in order to avoid children stick their, to not go out. In fact, the most fundamental solution is, what kind of cases both at the front, managed to let children make something more of the same age children, children from the play and interaction with peers, meet emotional needs, solve their problems, to be happy. Because the mothers themselves can not accompany children for a lifetime, one day, children have to live alone, alone in the world, and at that time to go, to go out was his, he really do not want to leave home, you cannot hide your own up to the balcony, right?
The mother wanted to both and let the children with their parents on the emotional, send to Grandma\'s House has no problem, it is more difficult. According to my experience, some children
To do so, some children will not work. Many children because the parents too much attachment, to the kindergarten to the dead cry, similar situations.Writers of long, whether MOM and Dad or Grandma Grandpa, who doesn\'t hurt children? Who does not want children with their parents? This is human nature, without reproach. But first of all, parents must be healthy, then had to be consistent with realistic conditions. If we allow such emotions flooded, drowning out of his mind, no matter who is, most victims are children.
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